Don’t Look At Her Face And Raping Your Wife Is Just Awesome, Says Christian Website

Sometimes, right-wing Christians wonder why the rest of us think that they are horrible people. Unfortunately, those same people ask “why” as they are in the midst of fighting against a woman’s access to healthcare options, denying women the right to choose what is right for their bodies, or just outright saying that raping one’s wife when she doesn’t want to have sex is exactly what God wants, because in the eyes of Jesus, there’s “no such thing as marital rape.”

Biblical Gender Roles, a Christian online publication that offers frustrated Christian men solutions to their wives’ “sexual immorality” if the women in their life refuse to touch them, has offered a number of bits of top-notch advice for Christian men in the past. If a man’s wife refuses to have sex with him, he should complain about it in front of his congregation or in front of the pastor and his wife privately, stop doing nice things for her until she eventually yields, and even take all of her money. Of course, he could always force her to do what he wants anyway, being God’s chosen f*ckstick.

If none of that works, as opposed to being a good husband and all of that lame secular stuff. If none of the web site’s heavy-handed and almost delightfully asinine suggestions work, divorce is the only option to rid one’s self of the sexually impure anti-harlot in his life, according to the site.

A recent installment to the anonymous Christian sex blogger’s series of facepalm-inducing garbage explains that, when a husband chooses the “not-rape” route, there are a number of things a good, Christian man can do to avoid feeling horrible about himself when forcing his wife to give in to him physically. The anonymous coward says that a reader was curious how to deal with the guilt when he forces his wife to do whatever he wants without concern for her feelings:

“You said we shouldn’t feel guilty to have sex even if it’s grudgingly but how can you? I would probably just cry and try to sleep.” – This was a question I got this week from a young husband who has been married a few years and is now experiencing a lack of sexual desire from his wife…As I started to respond to his email I thought it would be good if I included this for my readers.

The Christian sex guru explains that “you as a husband should not tolerate refusal.” Sometimes, it is acceptable to give her a “rain check” if she is suffering a debilitating illness, has had surgery, or has experienced a death in the family (how sweet!) but refusal to yield her body to you is absolutely out of the question. Sometimes — about five times a year, if that, in the case of the blogger (as he explains in comments) — your wife actually wants to have sex with you, but every other time you need to be a f*cking man and take it.

“The only time sex should not occur is when both the husband and wife give mutual consent not to for a short period of time,” Mr. Biblical Sex Guy writes explaining that a husband “is NOT 100% responsible for cultivating all of his wife’s sexual desire” by being decent to her” because “Women are commanded by God to be their husband’s lovers (in every sexual and affectionate sense of that word).” It is her God-given responsibility, BGR explains, to “fake it until she makes it”:

But in the end – your wife has to realize that the greatest impediment to her own enjoyment of sex may be her own mind! A woman’s mind can literally put her body in lock down mode and she may not enjoy any touch from you in that mindset. She must let go and focus on her body and understand how it works before she can truly enjoy sex.

But until your wife truly overcomes her impediments to sex should she fake it? I believe the answer is yes. I think as a husband you can let her know it is ok to “fake it until she makes it”. I have written a companion post to this post for wives entitled“Should Christian wives fake it?” that talks to women about this.

Don’t ask her if she really enjoyed having sex forced upon her while she meekly pretended that you’re worth f*cking, BGR cautions. The words “was it really good or were you just taking for me” need to be erased from a Christian man’s vocabulary. She loved it because God says she has to.

“What if she agrees to sex grudgingly and refuses to “fake it” but instead displays her displeasure the entire time?” he asks. “First of all, your reaction of being upset at the displeasure on your wife’s face during sex that she has grudgingly agreed to is completely normal.”

Whenever she doesn’t want you to bother her with your holy rod, Sex Guy has some tips for men who would be called rapists in any other scenario — don’t look at her face and concentrate on the fact that you’re gettin’ some, or you’re going to have a bad time because if you don’t get some, you’re going to face “temptation,” and we wouldn’t want that, would we? So, like the rapist you are, look away from the tears and hatred and focus on that sweet, sweet ass:

Focus your eyes on her body, not her face. Focus on the visual pleasure you receive from looking at her body and physical pleasure you receive from being inside your wife.

I know you love your wife, most of us as men love our wives. You want to connect with her physically AND emotionally during sex. But your wife is the one refusing to connect with you emotionally, so you have to concentrate 100% on the physical side.

The sex blogger likened women who are being forced to have sex to the mythical Greek figure Medusa, whose gaze turned men to stone if they looked upon her face:

I know you love your wife, most men love their wives. But sin is ugly. Your beautiful bride’s face becomes ugly during this sinful time that she is grudgingly giving you sex as she grimaces wanting you to “just hurry up and get it over with”.

So like the men who could not look at Medusa’s face otherwise they would be killed, realize that if you look on your wife’s face when she is displaying a sinful attitude toward sex it will kill your sexual pleasure and may actually make it much more difficult for you to achieve the physical connection and release that you need. Again you know you want that emotional connection too, but your wife is the one who is in sinful rebellion against God’s design for sex in your marriage and is refusing to emotionally connect with you.

Though he concedes that “It is sad that any husband ever has to do this” because “this is not what God intended sex to be,” the “sin cursed world” around us has made our wives into sinners. “Sometimes we have to work around the sinful behavior of our wives and this will be one of those times.”

Unfortunately, while religion can bring some benefit to the world, many Christians simply view women as property, and property can’t be raped (thank you Jesus). If you are relying on this person’s “wisdom,” you are likely so horrible that your wife can barely stand being around you. The problem is not that your wife refuses to touch you — it’s that you’re so awful that it’s doubtful any woman would want to touch you.

Rape is real — whether God “sanctions” it or not — and “no” means “no” no matter what social contracts one has entered into. The author of this blog belongs in prison and his wife with someone who deserves her. Period.


Featured image via Biblical Gender Roles